Rules and Natiquette The ten rules for the 'good' swinger

There is a real decalogue to be respected in swingers' clubs. At least in those who make the private room a place for SWINGING COUPLES

1. The private club is not a nightclub but a meeting place for couples and individuals who wish to have group sex or wish to exchange partners.
2. Courting and falling in love are prohibited. Swinging is a sex game detached from feelings. Everything is possible, but nothing is mandatory so no one is authorized to ask couples or singles for sexual services.
3. Access is only possible if you are a member and you cannot impose your presence if the club management does not like it.
4. Decorative clothing for men, refined but intriguing for women is an excellent business card. Confidentiality, discretion, respect for women and good manners are the prerequisites for establishing a friendly relationship with others.
5. A club is neither a nightclub nor a hotel by the hour. Women should not be invited to seclude themselves or urged to have sex, much less in the absence of their partner, who, however, is always present and involved unless he decides not to be.
6. A single man, interested in a woman, must know that the approach is always necessarily with the couple.
7. Before "acting", look around, dance, make friends, breathe in the atmosphere of the club.
8. Neither a couple nor a single person should be shy, the disco is the best place to meet up. You can get closer to each other by trying to touch and caress. A refusal will never be rude, but highlighted by a discreet gesture.
9. Don't bother if you feel like you're not accepted.
10. Maximum personal hygiene, excellent intimate cleanliness and the use of condoms in sexual intercourse make everyone welcome.

Un singolo verso la coppia, prima di tutto è da chiarire che in questo tipo di locali, non è dato niente di scontato, niente da diritto a nessuno di pretendere, spesso si sente dire dal singolo...ma io ho pagato tanto..., non chiedete di entrare se avete di queste pretese, con queste idee probabilmente sareste molto delusi e non concluderete niente di quello prefisso, all'ingresso chiedete sempre il parere di chi è a disposizione per sapere la serata come stà svolgendo, di solito l'ottimale è 1 singolo ogni 5/6 coppie (per avere il giusto equilibrio) ma l'Experience ci insegna che non sempre è così, non tutte le serate sono uguali, non sempre ci sono coppie che  'accettano il singolo' e perciò è comunque e sempre un'incognita per chi parte dal principio 'voglio marcare il cartellino' il risultato spesso dipende, esclusivamente da come si propone il singolo, un buon inizio è l'abbigliamento, anche se sportivo deve essere curato nei particolari, non trasandato, curato anche nell'aspetto, tipo capelli o barba, assolutamente proibito accedere al club in ciabatte, cercare onde sia possibile un dialogo con le coppie anche nel piano bar e discoteca, non solo ai piani 'privè' al buio, un complimento alla signora fa sempre piacere e dunque un buon inizio, considerare anche il compagno che è insieme alla signora potrebbe essere accattivante come approccio, non essere timidi ma neanche troppo sfacciati, educazione e colpo d'occhio per capire da subito se 'accettati' o meno, nei privè è sempre raccomandato un approccio delicato e non volgare come una mano poggiata maldestramente sul 'sedere' è modo volgare e comunque irritante per molte coppie anche quelle disposte ad accettare il singolo, ci sono svariati modi per avvicinare la donna anche senza proferire parola, lo sfiorare con dolcezza è sinonimo di rispetto, il non insistere se non si è accettati è rispetto, ricordate che per molte... siete l'oggetto del desiderio, ma non per tutte.

Respect the BAN ON ACCESS TO INDIVIDUALS, even just 'trying' is a lack of respect towards the couples themselves. If you see an open door and a couple inside, introduce yourself and propose politely.
Inside the club you will find other singles like you, and often when a couple moves towards the private rooms they all move together following them breathing down their necks, it is counterproductive, the couple gets scared or annoyed, give them some breathing space, if it is a couple that likes singles they will make it clear to you and obviously they will choose the one best suited to their desires.
The venue will try to give both you and the couple the utmost respect, do the same and you will benefit and have fun.
At the entrance always ask how the evening is and how many couples there are, you will be answered sincerely BUT ALWAYS KEEP IN MIND THAT THEY CANNOT GUARANTEE ANYTHING AND YOU WILL BE THE CREATOR OF YOUR EVENING SO IF YOU DECIDE TO PARTICIPATE IT WILL BE BY YOUR FREE CHOICE.
ALWAYS USE 'PROTECTION' in any case, if you don't have it, ask the management for it or use the special dispensers in the bathrooms.

Chronicle of a typical evening:
until a certain time we all scrutinize each other, taking our measurements more or less, couples, individuals and so on. It happens that we immediately understand that the chances of making 'serious' friends with a couple are vanishing and on the other hand tonight we really don't feel like ending up with one of the usual couples with whom we have already had more than satisfactory encounters. Oh well, it's almost the rule for us and in any case we certainly don't come to conclude by force... the music, the dancing, the atmosphere in itself constitute an excellent reason to be here. But... well, let's see if there's some nice singles... so every now and then... for a change.. yes, here are some. They seem like okay guys, let's follow some of them with our eyes, come on. Here the young man in question (or young men... another incomprehensible thing... but why do they often come to the private room as a couple?... like the worthy one... are they gay?... but don't they realize how they scare a couple who are perhaps just starting out if they show up as a couple?... not everyone loves gangs!!!) after having more or less carefully 'chosen' a couple, follows them silently step by step, the couple sits down and he stops a few distance as if he had to act as a 'post', or he too sits down and... peers, observes... the couple gets up and he follows behind, a silent shadow in the dim light. Perhaps he is waiting for a nod, a behavior, a signal, which comes from the couple and which in some way authorizes him to dare more. Well... we don't know. Of course it's strange. Without distinction, all the individuals who write couples an email on any specialized classifieds site that we all know boast of their desire to become friends, the desire to establish a complicity, and then the human relationship first of all and then the knowledge and feeling that can be created by chatting etc. etc. And then in the private room.... silent, aphasic hounds who do nothing but wait for the couple, who knows, perhaps won over by their external appearance alone or by their irresistible charm, without even knowing their name or hearing the sound of their voice to give them a nod like... come on!!! come closer.... crazy!!!... once upon a time they used a sort of courtship in which the individual somehow 'put himself on the line', in short he put his face forward in an approach that was as discreet as possible... 'sorry, if I'm bothering you, tell me straight away and I'll move away but... you're such a nice couple that I couldn't resist the urge to try to get to know you... can I offer you something to drink?' .... or I don't know.... 'have you been coming here for a long time?... I rarely come here, I don't know anyone, would you like to make friends?'... in short, anything that, of course, far from guaranteeing an always prompt and warm welcome (of course!!!) somehow qualifies the aforementioned person as belonging to the Homo sapiens genus with speech with the relevant neurons in their place. The greatest risk that the aspiring 'accomplice' of one or more evenings would run would be to receive a polite 'no thanks' and everything would end there. Nothing bad. Who has never taken a double score in these things? But also a... maybe... and then... who knows? We don't think there is a couple who, when politely asked, rise up screaming and calling for the army to intervene.
At least the individual would immediately know who to exclude from his attentions and would dedicate himself more profitably to his hunt. None of this. Immersed in a merry-go-round, alone or even worse as a couple, there they are wandering around in the dim light in pure pink panther style, dedicating themselves to various mostly fruitless stalking, at least from what we have had the opportunity to see... There is almost the impression that they do not intend to expose themselves unless 'sure shot' or only after a couple has dedicated themselves to various games in their presence and only then, always without a word, always in the most rigorous silence, do they feel authorized to... introduce themselves?... no... but to reach out!!!.
Oh well, all tastes are tastes, rightly so, it is actually possible that our way of seeing is largely a minority and that the majority of couples prefer this last way of behaving. Nothing to complain about, of course. From our experience, which is not a small one, really, we believe that this is not the case. To tell the truth, in all honesty, it has also happened to us (rarely) to... do and then, talk... of course but... with another couple!!!!... The problems that a single person poses for a couple constitute a much more delicate issue in our opinion and requires much more attention.